The CBT Dive

Reframing the fear of being excluded

April 09, 2024 Rahim Thawer, MSW Season 2 Episode 3
The CBT Dive
Reframing the fear of being excluded
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Host and therapist Rahim Thawer talks to Vance, a sex and intimacy coach, who discusses his behaviors and thoughts when he feels excluded, and his desire for a group of friends. Vance shares his experiences with friendships and the fear of being too much for others. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the isolation that can come with personal growth and the importance of being understood by a small group of people.

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The CBT Dive is a video podcast that brings therapy skills to the real world. Each episode welcomes a new guest who wants to explore a challenging situation using the most common cognitive behavioural therapy tool: the thought record.

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Rahim Thawer is a queer, racialized social worker and psychotherapist based in Toronto. He's created The CBT Dive podcast to support folks who want to learn how to use a thought record and to demystify what therapy can look like.

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Introduction
What it means to be a sex and intimacy coach
The impact of movement on mental health
Introduction to the thought record
Identifying the situation
Exploring the feelings triggered by exclusion
Behaviours
Automatic thoughts and beliefs
Hot Thought: I’ll always experience loneliness
Evidence supporting Hot Thought
Evidence that does not support the Hot Thought
Alternative thoughts and beliefs
Balanced thought
Present feelings
Reflections and Progress
Goodbyes and Outro