The CBT Dive
Welcome to The CBT Dive: a video podcast that brings therapy skills to the real world! Each episode welcomes a new guest who wants to explore a challenging situation using the most common cognitive behavioural therapy tool: the thought record. Rahim Thawer is a queer, racialized social worker and psychotherapist based in Toronto. He's created this podcast to support folks who want to learn how to use this clinical tool and to demystify what therapy can look like.
Episodes
34 episodes
CBT Shorts: The Aftermath of Being Ghosted
We all know how infuriating it can be when someone ghosts you after a couple of dates. It's okay to feel frustrated and deceived. But what else comes up for you in those moments? 🤔In our latest Shorts episode, we're bringing you the key ...
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Season 1
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Episode 22
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41:14
CBT Shorts: Can’t Break My Soul - When Dating Meets Grind Culture
In this special Shorts episode, we revisit some highlights from a previous season that dive deep into personal journeys and the challenges of dating apps. Our guest, Terence, believes that everyone is on their unique path. Yet, he struggles wit...
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Season 1
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Episode 16
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36:21
When your queerness feels constantly challenged
Lindsay Wynn, founder and CEO of Momotaro Apotheca, shares her experience of feeling excluded and questioned about her bisexual identity at a gay bar. She explores the feelings of self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and sadness that arose from this ...
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Season 2
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Episode 8
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31:01
Getting out of your mind and into your body with somatic therapy
Instead of exploring thoughts patterns using CBT this episode, Rahim interviews somatic counsellor Megan Blair, who then guides him through a mini session where Rahim plays the role of the client who is encouraged to explore what his body is ex...
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Season 2
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Episode 7
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38:41
CBT Shorts: Muscles and my fear of being overlooked
In this bonus Shorts episode of The CBT Dive, we’ve taken the highlights from a previous season for you to dip into. Host and psychotherapist Rahim Thawer talks with Al about body image concerns amongst gay men and the pressures to either achie...
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Season 1
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Episode 2
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26:54
Parenting an ageing parent: Offering care with renewed boundaries
Our guest this episode is a medical worker named Ale who joins psychotherapist and host Rahim Thawer to discuss his complicated relationship with his mom and the difficult feelings that arise when she calls asking him for money. In a departure ...
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Season 2
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Episode 6
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37:01
Feeling frazzled and not knowing where to start
Host and psychotherapist Rahim Thawer talks with David, a masters student who is struggling with balancing his career with his schoolwork. Together they delve into the feelings and thoughts of dread, exhaustion, urgency, and self-criticism that...
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Season 2
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Episode 5
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41:48
CBT Shorts: Trepidation of being a "bottom" on Grindr
In this bonus Shorts episode of The CBT Dive, we’ve taken the highlights from a previous season for you to dip into. Host and psychotherapist Rahim Thawer talks with Adnan about his experience with hesitating to indicate he’s a “bottom” on dati...
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Season 1
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Episode 5
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34:30
Masking jealousy with stoicism in a poly relationship
In this conversation, psychotherapist and host Rahim Thawer is joined by José, a psychologist and poet who lives with their partner. José shares their experience as the anchor partner in a polyamorous relationship and they explore the feelings ...
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Season 2
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Episode 4
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31:20
CBT Shorts: My father is dishonest and consistently disappointing
In this bonus CBT Shorts episode, we’ve taken the highlights from a previous season for you to dip into. Host and psychotherapist Rahim Thawer talks with Farrah about her experience with a dishonest and disappointing father.
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Season 1
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Episode 1
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20:50
Reframing the fear of being excluded
Host and therapist Rahim Thawer talks to Vance, a sex and intimacy coach, who discusses his behaviors and thoughts when he feels excluded, and his desire for a group of friends. Vance shares his experiences with friendships and the fear of bein...
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Season 2
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Episode 3
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40:04
When capitalism turns you against yourself
Psychotherapist and host Rahim Thawer and Riz discuss Riz’s travel adventures and how they have led to unique stressors and insights into his relationship with money. Riz shares situations that have brought up difficult feelings, such as feelin...
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Season 2
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Episode 2
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40:04
When you're trying to disrupt the trauma of poverty
In this episode, host Rahim Thawer talks to Kae about the recurring feelings of stress around when rent is due. The conversation explores Kae's thoughts and emotions related to financial struggles, self-criticism, and worries about falling b...
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Season 2
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Episode 1
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38:14
E22 The aftermath of being ghosted
When you’re ghosted by someone after a couple of dates, it’s legitimately infuriating. It’s okay to feel frustrated and even deceived. But, what else comes up for you in those moments? In this episode, we explore the underlying fears that get r...
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Episode 22
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1:49:54
E21 Interview: Culturally adapted CBT and treatment for complex disorders, in-person and online
In this interview, Dr. Farooq Naeem shares his longstanding research interest in CBT and culture. He discusses how CBT concepts can conflict with the beliefs of people in non-Western cultures and then delves into the various ways people can und...
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Episode 21
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44:54
E20 Interview: Adapting CBT interventions for sexual and gender minorities
In this interview, Dr. Trevor Hart discusses the need for CBT interventions that target sexual and gender minorities (SGM) and explains how they differ from standard psychotherapy. He addresses some of the critiques that are often shared about ...
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Episode 20
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39:21
E19 Questioning my lived experience as a valid credential
When community organizations create roles for people with lived experience, how does this get experienced on the employee side? In this episode, we talk to a harm reduction activist, drug user, and community worker committed to gay men's health...
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Episode 19
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1:13:46
E18 Self-criticism as a motivator or reinforcer of low self-worth
You have a work assignment but you avoid getting started, worry about failure, catastrophize, and then negate positive feedback when it's been submitted and reviewed. Sound familiar? In this episode, we explore a common but frustrating pattern....
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1:01:26
E17 Performative activism and the betrayal of a close friend
If you were called out publicly (or worse, cancelled altogether), would your closest friends stick by your side and be there for you? In this episode, we examine the impact of being betrayed by close friends on social media for their own self-p...
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Episode 17
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1:15:08
E16 Can’t Break My Soul - When Dating Meets Grind Culture
We’re all on our individual journeys. That’s what this guest strongly believes. Still, there’s legitimate resentment that comes up when you feel judged by people on dating apps who appear to be well sorted with their nice job titles and cushy b...
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Episode 16
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1:14:34
E15 Honouring my identity and being expereienced as righteous
Friendships come easily to some of us while others struggle to be seen, understood, and affirmed. In this episode, we explore the story of someone who felt outcast by a group of peers who saw him as inconsistent around his values and behaviour....
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Episode 15
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1:47:47
E14 What it means for a queer woman to close the door on having children
While gay men often toss out their straight-world rule book and start anew, queer women don't always have the same luxury. Women are socialized, encouraged, and pressured to be so many things, including maternal. In this episode, Telsa consider...
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Episode 14
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1:36:16
E13 I experience intense connection and intense loss
What do your friends expect from you when you make plans together? Sometimes we might feel like we have to bring only positive energy or always be helpful in some way. In this episode, we gently shift away from assumptions about toxic friendshi...
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Episode 13
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1:18:55
E11 The time I cursed at myself over a small mistake
Do you ever scold yourself for small mistakes? What's underneath that tendency to self-punish? In this episode, Dawn examines the time she cursed at herself for merely leaving a water bottle in her car. We did a deep dive to unearth a core beli...
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Episode 11
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1:26:29
E10 Career planning in my 40's and the grief of time passed
Sometimes self-doubt increases with age. And, we look back at the bold decisions of our twenties and thirties and wonder if we made the right choices. In this episode, Phil examines his grief, regret, and anxiety about changing careers in his m...
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Episode 10
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1:14:05