CBT Shorts: Muscles and my fear of being overlooked

In this bonus Shorts episode of The CBT Dive, we’ve taken the highlights from a previous season for you to dip into. Host and psychotherapist Rahim Thawer talks with Al about body image concerns amongst gay men and the pressures to either achieve or maintain a particular physique. This preoccupation is about optimising the ways they can participate in gay men's spaces, including dating and hookup culture.

Al seemingly has the body he's always wanted but we dig a bit deeper into the culture of 'never being enough' that begins with a fear of being overlooked and lands him in a place where he questions his worthiness.

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The CBT Dive is a video podcast that brings therapy skills to the real world. Each episode welcomes a new guest who wants to explore a challenging situation using the most common cognitive behavioural therapy tool: the thought record.

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Rahim Thawer is a queer, racialized social worker and psychotherapist based in Toronto. He's created The CBT Dive podcast to support folks who want to learn how to use a thought record and to demystify what therapy can look like.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction
• 1:30 The situation
• 1:50 Feelings experienced during the situation
• 4:35 Behavior during the situation
• 6:00 Automatic Thoughts
• 11:20 Hot Thought: I’ll be overlooked if I’m not muscular enough
• 12:17 Evidence supporting the Hot Thought
• 16:00 Evidence that contradicts the Hot Thought
• 18:43 Alternative Thought
• 23:24 Present feelings
• 25:40 Check-in
• 26:22 Outro